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RESISTANCE to Change

You should watch this first before we continue. I’ll wait.

Good? Okay then.

People get funny when talk of change comes up. Usually you’re on one side or the other; resist or make the movement. We are each our own person and we gotta make our own choices as to which changes to battle and which ones to succumb to. The foolish ones are those who think they NEVER have to change.

Newsflash. You can’t escape it or help it. Comfort levels have expiration dates like anything else. You don’t have to make the change with everything, but you WILL have to do it on some level.

Which brings me to our little excerpt from “Layer Cake”. Change frightens people because they’re not sure what layer of the cake they’re gonna end up on. I’ve also noticed some are too scared to make the change to rise higher on the cake. Maybe they’re just used to their level. Who knows?

So here I am. Sitting in front of this Macbook with Kendrick Lamar’s “Section.80” album for mood music (if you’re late to the dance, find a copy. Most refreshing thing out of the Cali rap game yet) thinking about the changes I’ve gone through in my own life. Some I chose and some chosen for me. I lost a lot of things headed into 2012 and initially; I was angered at the thought of the things I knew being taken away. Then time passed. I stopped looking at the now and looked at what was ahead and answers became clear.

You can’t make space for the new without pushing out the old ūüėČ then you realize something with that change. The things you lose can and do get replaced; oftentimes better than what you had, but it’s all based on if you got the guts to know that you can have what was and then some. With that said, 2012 has been such a self-discovery as to who I am, what I want, and what else I can accomplish. I’m still as hungry as ever, but the focus isn’t as reckless as it once was. Yes folks, more than my hair has grown. This year is gonna be full of accomplishments and hard work for that next level in the layer cake, but with the sensibility to enjoy the little things and the special people around me who nurture and support me beyond those ropes. Not ashamed to say my personal life plagued me with situations I created for myself and others people created for me. That time is over.

So if you’re out there reading this and wondering when your change is gonna come, here’s your indication. It’s happening as soon as you make it. YOU are the fuse. Now spark it.

The worst of times included:

-A person I was so close with turning into someone I don’t know or care to know anymore.

-A close friend of mine betraying trust in a major way.

-Working 3 jobs just to be broke.

-Sitting on the verge of calling it quits for a business that I’ve loved forever.

-General self-doubt in my own being

-The loss of my dear friend, Brittany Berry.

It felt like one thing after another. Yet here we are. Money in the bank (shawty what ya drank), a site and movement in Brittany’s honor (Do It For Brittany), finding out just how strong some wonderful friendships and people have run in my life, and just learning to appreciate things on a level I didn’t know I could. No dark clouds, just new goals ūüôā I’m still here and I’m hoping if you got ills in your life, you’ll push to overcome too.

And I owe so much of it to you. Yea, you. Scrolling down this post as we speak. You kept me going. Cheered me on, texted me, Facebooked me, emailed me, hung out with me, whatever you had to do to make sure your mark on me was positive. You pushed me to change that I NEEDED. You’ve shown me a better way. I’m motivated to make something happen because of you. And I will.

So with all the deeply introspective uber-personal type stuff out the way, lets talk some other issues yes?

RESISTANCE Pro's Vicious Circle on 2/17!

I’m rather excited for RESISTANCE Pro. Can’t even lie. They were the perfect segue-way regarding my talk about changes. There’s something so very different about the kind of company RESISTANCE is, helping it stand out like the CHIKARA Pro’s and Beyond Wrestling’s of the world. From the talent they use to the way they carry themselves, it’s something worth watching. People have been commenting for a bit at how my general style in the ring has grown and matured. My travels and a pair of open ears have opened up some new ways of doing what I love. Outlets like Beyond Wrestling’s Tournament for Tomorrow, EVOLVE 9, and others have been slowly trickling out more and more of my capabilities. RESISTANCE may end up seeing them unleashed and in a way the world may not be expecting. If there was ever a time to display the changes I’ve been speaking and writing about, Chicago will be the place.

Make sure you bring yourself early for the meet and greet they’ve got on deck as well! I know a lot of you have been asking when I’d be on my way back to Chi-town and this would be that time. Lets take advantage and share some positive vibes yea?

-Good riddance to SOPA & PIPA. I get what they were TRYING to do; you just can’t leave yourself that kinda room in the writing to recreate “1984” (Orwell mentions in a Sugar D blog….NO WAY!?!?) on the internet. I propose my own bill for that whole situation. I call it, “Let’s not and say we did”. Any takers?

-I gotta say, the NBA has really turned it up since doing this accelerated season to make up for the lockout. You’re really getting a sense for who’s out to play these days. In keeping with the change theme, the powerhouse “old guards” of the Celtics and the Lakers don’t look like the usual locks to win everytime anymore. It’s looking like a really open frontier for hoops this season and playoff time is gonna be rather on point.

EWF’s X8 Tournament will be taking place March 17th in Converse, Indiana. Get your tickets ASAP and please believe I’m looking mad forward to show some more Midwest love. This would also mark my first tournament of 2012 so I’m hoping to make a strong accounting for myself. Lets see what kind of tricks I’ve got up my sleeves (or would it be wristbands?) for this one.

Check out my words for the tournament.

-You are bound to know people who don’t know how to do “simple”. Complicated is what they do and it may drive you up the wall. My advice? If there brand of complicated don’t lead to ANYTHING productive, why dedicate the energy? Your sanity is a precious resource and is also subject to damage beyond repair, ya dig? Keep that in mind the next time you do a 12 round argument with a fool.

-Billy Roc’s “School Of Roc: Class Wars”. Watch and support this program.

I’ve had the pleasure of wrestling Billy Roc at Dragon Gate’s Indianapolis event last year. He’s as nice as he is talented, which he has in abundance. With that said, I’ve had the pleasure of crossing paths with many of his students and I’ve been impressed with their general work ethic and pure potential. This show will hopefully give you a glimpse into that.

-A word before Valentine’s Day. If one day on the calendar is the best you’ve got when it comes to showing how much you love someone, rethink your strategy.

Like any exercise or talent, it takes repetition and a performance stronger than the last to be done correctly. Don’t wait to be given an okay to do so. I’ve never heard “just because” being a reason why someone got mad at a grand gesture by their loved one. So I hope the couples, soon to be couple, singles, and those of the awkward relationship status find their way of enjoying V-Day. I’d hope they just find ways of doing it more consistently. Now go put on some Barry White and do something inappropriate!

Sugar Dunkerton is not responsible for any repercussions of said inappropriate behavior.

-Big thank you to www.barbershopwindow.com for carrying my lovely “Fresh Since 85” shirt! It was great working with them on the project and if you’re a fan of wrestling and WELL put together shirts, you wanna sink some coin into The Barbershop Window. Check em’ out.

-I made a comment on a recent PWPonderings.com podcast (Get your listen on HERE) where I let it be known that some of the idols and inspirations I’ve come to meet during my travels weren’t all they were cracked up to be. Some for better, some for worse.

It’s a funny thing when you reach heights that you’ve been clawing for. Oftentimes, you get an image in your head of what the view would look like. So to reach that peak and realize the view was a waste of the effort can be a crushing thing. So as a word to the “worse” I’ve met on my travels; if your love is lacking to the point where you place yourself above what happens between the ropes, the fans who put money into you, and the decency to show general respect to those that respect you…why are you here? What purpose do you serve?

You not only ruin what the game is about; you ruin the feeling for those who look up to you. The future who wants to achieve and hopefully surpass the groundwork you laid. The irony is, some of the cats I speak of are bitter at the guys coming up in the business; yet have themselves to blame for being the crappy example they had to look up to. Set an example. Create positive change via your own action. Inspire.

-Get well Jesse Sorenson and Dustin Rayz. Not much detail to get into on that one.

-Guess I’m signing off by saying that in a few days time, I add another year to my life. I’m excited for it and above all I feel good in a way I didn’t know I could. Still hungry, still strong, and getting BETTER instead of older. There were things that were and now they’re not. I’m okay with that. You can only deal with what’s in your circle after all right? Enjoy the hand you’ve been dealt until the next one comes your way. That’s EXACTLY what I intend to do and i hope you intend to do the same. I got faith that you can. As usual, keep up with my escapades on the ol’ Twitter and keep supporting me. I’m a great return on that kind of investment ūüėČ

And now I leave you with this….

You may wonder what the heck that has to do with this blog. Well, absolutely nothing at all. I just find it amusing. Besides, DO YOU SEE THOSE DANCES MOVES ON FLYNT FLOSSY?!

-Moonwalks out of frame-

-DUNKS

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Wrestle & Romance

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BTW, shouts out to anybody that gets the reference in the title ūüėČ I miss WAR (Revisit it via the good people at IVPVideos.com on the cheap! Shamless Plug Over).

Anyway, we start this entry on a bit more of a serious note than most. I’ve kinda been a bit reserved and had a bit of an uphill climb in recent memory. This tends to happen with your involvement in this crazy business of ours and while you MAY get used to it; it never feels normal.

I’ve had a lot of personal changes in my life; things I usually will never let come to the surface when I step between the ropes. How could I let it? Between the ropes I’m free. At peace with the noise and excitement ya know?

Of all the personal changes though, the matters of love usually hurt the most. I choose to address it because quite frankly, it needs to be. I don’t think we as wrestlers recognize what our professions does to us socially and those on the outside fail to realize it too.

Wrestling has no off season, high risks, low rewards (depending on perspective), and most of all; the ability to estrange you from loved ones if given the opportunity. I remember watching documentaries and other features about wrestlers who ran the roads for our enjoyment; idols to millions around the world, but a stranger when they walk through their own front door.

Neglected children.

Socially absent.

A ghost of a husband.

It takes a special kind of person to love us for what we do. To understand that there’s always going to be a tug of war between the business and their loving hands. Frankly, it’s a portion of this business I hate so much.

I have no problem telling ANYONE, I was nothing in this business for a number of years when I started. The dreams of exotic locales and rabid fans seemed like a distant memory because I always felt like I was missing something, whether my fault or other factors. So after years of limping along, the opportunities come along to change everything you know about what’s possible. To be the star and shine the way you’ve always wanted to.

The only problem is…when you accept these chances, you WILL hurt people. You will be missing. The chance to build a normal relationship with someone you love, admire, and respect will be tested and tried at every turn. The worst part? If you actually do GOOD, it’ll only grow.

I loved someone very dearly. For a long time. And in my rise from an unknown with a basketball making a CHIKARA debut to a wrestler people are keeping their eye on; things fell apart. The average stresses of “normality” (Check that Hitchhiker’s Guide reference.), my own ambition, misunderstandings, and what not turned a gap into a canyon. The worst part, you almost can understand why they feel so raw about you. Perhaps it was best not to answer the phone for that one booking or just stay home and have the quiet dinner you’d been wanting to have for so long.

Then you gut checked at 70 MPH.

Wrestling is very rarely a “do over” thing. Either you’re there for the spot or someone else will be. If you don’t want the chance to be a star, fine. But isn’t that why we sacrifice ourselves? For that chance to rise higher than when we came in? The nature of the beast almost makes emotional ties outside the ropes a liability, where only the most Teflon of family, friends, and lovers can last the strain. Looking at both ends of the coin, it can be rough for both ends. There is no right or wrong per se’. Only the choice you made.

My choice cost me someone very dear to me. What was already bleeding out is only KEPT alive out of mutual respect. But nothing will return to what it was. She’s gone her own way and all I can do is let her. It makes me wonder how many of my brothers and sisters of the ring wars are on those long car rides, less concerned about the match and more about what they left behind at home. For the average wrestler, it’s usually a lot.

I’ve been told I’m very interactive. Very candid. One particular comment I enjoyed was, “There’s a realness to you when the lights are on bright that you just can’t duplicate”. It’s real because this is what I love to do. Interacting with people who understand that kind of passion and being a hero to some makes the struggles worth it. A lot of things in my life have been put on hold or died for the sake of making the crowd roar and pushing myself to the next level. The best of the best have remained by my side and even when I’m out of touch, they know I’ll be back; because my life when the lights go out wouldn’t be the same without them.

White picket fences. Kids. BBQs. Cuddling. All that “normal people stuff” takes on a greater value when your bed most weekends is a hotel or a car backseat. Their importance dawns upon you as the bruises, cars, and injuries mount up. If you’re a member of the neglected who feel the wrestler in your life doesn’t care or has no heart for you, rethink your position. I’m very serious. Most of the time, we don’t sign up for this to watch it all fall apart when the boots come off.

For my wrestlers, stay strong and think about how far you’re willing to go and what you can do to hold it together. If someone is important to you, let them know before they EVER get the chance to feel like that’s the case. They deserve that much for the patience they have to give you in the wake of being shared with the road.

For the fans, you’re witnessing a father, brother, sister, mother, lover, and at base value; someone important to someone else give their time and best effort (hopefully) to make your ticket price absolutely worth it. Their sacrifice is more than you’ll ever know. The things you take for granted, we wish could go smoother in our own lives. Cherish them. Cause somewhere, there’s a guy with a pair of Converse’s and pretty large hair wishing things were different so he could have the same things.

With that said, next week marks my return to Dragon Gate USA for their 9/9, 9/10, 9/11 events. I’ll be in the Open Invitational Elimination Match on the 9/9 show and the Bonus Cards of the following events. I have every intention of making your ticket purchase worth it.

If you’re planning on ordering the show or ANY show from WWNlive.com btw, help a brother out and click on the poster you’ll see below. Make your order or purchase via there and EVERYBODY WINS! -thumbs up-


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Also be on the lookout for me at CHIKARA Pro’s September 17th and 18th events in Brockton, MA and Manhattan, NY respectively.

And as if things couldn’t get busier; Beyond Wrestling has NO clue what they unleashed when they let the KOA loose…coming soon ūüôā

I’ve got some other cool news to announce, but we’ll wait til we get sooner to the date for that. For now, I can only focus on working harder and being the best Sugar D I can be. I hope the same for all of you out there. When you try to make things better, your situation usually tends to improve.

As for who I lost. I think it was Shawn Michaels who said it best.

“I love you. I’m sorry.”

Later days and hug somebody a little tighter than usual, yea? Long hard road ahead. Wish me luck!

-DUNKS

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Is This Thing On?

-Wipes the dust off his WordPress account, coughs a bit, tap microphone-

Test. Test. Is this thing on?

Well good.¬† Been awhile since I last poked my head in regarding the adventures of the afroed wonder. 5 WHOLE MONTHS to be exact. It’s not that I didn’t sit at a laptop or attempt to do a blog from my mobile from time to time….I just felt like I lacked something worth the keystrokes to talk about. So I waited until there was something worth saying to pop back up.

And here I am. Seeing and feeling different from¬†the February when I last chronicled a non-Twitter thought. I warn you now, this particular blog is gonna be quite Ghostface¬†Killah in terms of stream of thought; so I’d strap in if you wanna follow along with me. And here we go, bullet points go~!

-With loss¬†we all have our moments where the signs are neon bright; but we turn our eye to them; even dim the glare. I don’t care how hardened of a person you think you are; losing something or someone can really gut you.

I come from a background of constant moving around, a broken home, and a general lack of self-esteem early in life (THANKS PUBLIC SCHOOL~!); so losing things and detaching could have been considered a secondary skill. But I’m only human; we all are.

A¬†recent loss was a good friend of mine, Amasis. Our business chews up and spits out wrestlers like sunflower seeds. We know this. But the bonds we build in this strange fraternity don’t make these happenings any easier. I remember jumping on Twitter and hearing small rumors about his forced retirement.

Disbelief. It couldn’t be true. It was only a month or two that we spoke and we talked about all the matches he still had left in him. Mountains to conquer. Talent like that just doesn’t die…does it?

One phone call later; reality laid one right across my grill. This is how it ends? I’m still rocked about it even now. The irony being that it wasn’t set in stone for everyone else until I tweeted it. What a way to finally make the Figure 4 Weekly, yea? /end sarcasm. The more I saw it retweeted and reposted; the more I feel like I was the one¬†that confirmed¬†the death on my own friend’s career.

Worst. Honor. Ever.

A part of me hopes this is premature; that he’ll come back and dazzle us one more time the way we all know he can. I know we care about his well-being and health, but deep down; the selfish person in us all wants one more crazy dance or a gravity defying 450. Me? I just want my friend around.

Get better man. You’ve got friends in or out of the ropes for life.

-I’d like to thank the other half of the Osirian Portal, Ophidian for our two matches (one in CHIKARA the other for Force 1’s Tour De Force) recently. The guy is a real grinder and he’s been forced to adapt and reinvent now that he’s flying solo. The real respect from me comes in the fact that he’s not looking to this as a crutch, but as a challenge that he’s going to tackle head on. I feel like¬†our work brought out the best in us recently and I hope nothing but success for ya in the 12 Large Summit and beyond. You desssssssssserve it. See what I did there? :p

-I’d like to take a moment to speak on my trip to Puerto Rico for PRWA. Wow. From the moment I stepped off the plane, I felt very in tune with the place as a whole and I’d recommend anybody to check it out if they have the opportunity. It’s the kind of place where you swear out you’ve seen the most beautiful sight you’ve ever seen and minutes later, it will be topped. I’m fortunate enough to say that it looks like my relationship with the Puerto Rico Wrestling Alliance will continue after an awesome show in Ponce.

I faced turncoat and general arrogant cat, Samuel Adams and it was a real blast performing for the crowd. Despite language barriers; I loved that they may have not understood what I was saying, but could FEEL what I was getting across. There’s a pride and love they take in their country, heritage, and people and it’s left a lasting impression with me.

PRWA in The Paper!

PRWA in The Paper!

Paradise Exists

Paradise Exists in Puerto Rico

I also wanna give special thanks to Victor and Josian’s¬†lovely and well-cultured wife for furthering my Spanglish! “Yo soy helado¬†chocolate, mamita!” became my phrase over there and to say it was well-recieved was like saying Mark Henry is just a “kinda big” guy :p

Mark my words, Azucar¬†Chocolate has not forgotten my new family in PRWA and the¬† new wave of fans I’ve taken on. We’ve only just begun!

Ruego nos reunimos más temprano que tarde.

-It’s¬†been quite a time to watch wrestling right now, yea? CM Punk is the hot commodity in a way like nobody would have EVER thought possible with his brilliant promo on RAW. Any semblance¬†of a 4th wall got smashed, but was done artistically enough to keep us out of late WCW¬†territory with shoots that went over EVERYBODY’S heads.

Hop over to Spike TV and you’ve got TNA¬†switching gears and placing emphasis on the X-Division. With that emphasis became focus on strong matches and in-ring storytelling that lead to a highly entertaining Destination X PPV that I’m only recently viewing. Even the introduction of their Bound For Glory series (Hmmm….why does that sound so familair…-logs on to www.chikarapro.com)¬†with each match, round robin style, counting towards a title shot and therefore, making the matches of true worth.

Both companies made returns to what made us fall in love with them in the first place. WWE for unleashing an air of unpredictability and must-see TV that felt real in execution; while TNA proceeded to be very un-WWE like, letting unreal ring work and match-based stories take center stage.

The responses for both products have had fans on a high of interest I LOVE to see in our business. Will they continue down the exciting paths they’ve ventured down? It’s all up to you now guys.

I for one love to read opinions, negative and positive, from fans about matches, shows, and all else they intake about the squared circle. Wrestling¬†fans are a breed that definitely arent shy about what they hate. Mention the wrong wrestler and the temperature on a message board goes up 50 degrees easily. I just hope in the midst of all the negative you don’t forget to commend the positive. Not just in words, but in deed too.

Tune in. Buy DVDs. Do the first P in “PPV”! Your dollars and time decide directions and focus in this business and this time more than ever is where you decide what happens next. I hope the PPV numbers for Destination X and the replays are through the roof. I hope the past few weeks of CM Punk being the highlight of TV usher in strong ratings for RAW. I promise you, they pay attention.

Your voices are loud, but your money makes a great megaphone when that ain’t enough.

РAs many of you know, I co-host Pantsless Radio alongside my dear friend Wiggy (@Wiggygator on Twitter)  for Card Subject to Change Network and I was expecting yesterday to be another slapstick episode of debauchery and such.

-Lid blows off-

Then Jimmy Rave (@TheJimmyRave on ze’ Twitter¬†-throws toilet paper-) hit the show and what followed was an hour+ of not only a man who’s had his share of laughs and wild nights; but proof that redemption is out there if you seek it.

Starting off in my career, I used to follow the exploits of Jimmy Rave not just because he was quite the talent, but also because he was a Georgia boy being featured in major indies and internationally. I wanted to see the sights he’d seen and I held to the belief that I could have more than what the bounds of Georgia could give me. Our interview with him yesterday revealed so much in regards to the toll and hefty price he paid to be in this business. Unlike so many of our brothers who have fallen to their vices and demons, Jimmy made it out and continues to perform not only at a high level (as seen recently for Dragon Gate USA, TNA, or on a regular basis with Rampage Pro Wrestling) he now gives back in his community to help others fight addiction.

When the link to download this episode of Pantsless is prepared, I implore you, spend some time and listen to that installment. Take in what he’s saying and I hope it calls out to you like it did for us and so many listeners who caught this live.

It’s amazing how inspirations can find new ways to inspire you.

PLANKIN~!

I've done crazier in AND out of tights! So what's the big deal about planking?

-Planking. The new uber-silly craze to overtake the internet. I feel our goood friends at Wikipedia could educate those who don’t know about planking better than I. I notice there’s no in between on it either. It’s hailed as either the stupidest thing in all of life or quite the creatively fun activity.

The way I figure it, we all are prone to bouts of thoughtful stupidity. It’s gonna happen. Lighten up and realize that laying face down in strange manners isn’t going to rock the Earth off center. In my own case, who would I be to lay in on plankers given that I’ve only partaken in my share of zany moments….

So who am I to get uppity? Plankers gonna’ plank!

-I’ve been asked about shirts and other merch. Patience folks. I actually got some responses from a number of WONDERFUL artists who hit me up and I have every intent of trying to work in the designs they’ve created into shirts. They’re absolutely groovy and I can’t wait to share when the moment is correct.

-Looking ahead I’ll be appearing for Beyond Wrestling’s “About Time” show on the 23rd & 24th of this month. I worked with them for the first time at their Miracle Workers event. It left me a tad skeptical, never wrestling competitively in a setting where just other workers were watching without it being a training or tryout situation. What I found was a crew of lively youngsters, journeymen, future stars, and outrageous personalities. Beyond definitely marches to the beat of a different drum, but the work I saw on display was just incredible and most of all…I had FUN. So much fun. It reminded me why I love this business and set my on a positive road for the coming months to follow. It’s gonna be a pleasure to get it in at their first live show ever and PLEASE don’t forget it’s a double header in conjunction with another bizarrely great company, InterSpecies Wrestling. They’ll be holding their first ever Burger King of The Ring tournament which I’m sure’ll be a hot one. GO DAN BARRY~! (@TheDanBarry on Twitter. Gotta love this guy.)

-I’ve already been asked a few questions as to why I named my lariat the “Bow Chicka Wow Wow”. It stems from a Twitter convo with the lovely librarian-esque Victoria (@prettyheartless on Twitter. Stop by and say hi! Warning: She can live up to her handle.) when I made mention of naming a move that very name. She proceeded to introduce the thought of row of girls screaming “BOW CHICKA WOW WOW!” in unison…..I’m a red-blooded male. What more could you expect from me? She now earns 10 cents every lariat :p

-Wanna thank my supporters in New York for the serious love shown when I hit the Fray for Dragon Gate USA. It pumped me up to no end and I’m just hoping my performance was worth the screams. It’s been a hard climb for some of the shots I’m finally receiving, but you guys make me feel like it’s all a matter of wanting it bad enough. You have no clue the power that holds over a guy. We’ve still got 6 months left before we count this year out; so let’s go higher and go further. I know we can ūüôā

Anyway, I got episodes of the Powerpuff Girls on deck and moves to make. I’ll try to keep the blogging more frequent when I can.

By the by….while I’m already up north next week, I wonder what other trouble I can get into. ūüôā Stay tuned. We’ve yet to even get to the 3rd quarter folks!

-Dunks

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